20/20

"Clearing things up with ourselves first
clears up anything with anyone else."
LoVe LuCy

They never said life would be easy.

They never said the going wouldn't get tough, and we wouldn't want to throw in the towel, in our relationships with our spouses, friends, jobs, and even with ourselves.

Many of us can ponder and ponder why it is that we attract certain people in our lives, or why we keep putting ourselves in certain positions.

Many of us have no idea why we haven't attracted that right person, we are so hoping for.

We may have a list, of what we want this person to look like, including many characteristics and values that we want them to have, in order for us to hold true to ourselves just what we know we deserve.

Whether it is in our current relationships that don't look exactly like what we want, or in seeking a new and upcoming connection.Something today caught my ear, and touched my heart to the point of tears"For a quality relationship, write down 20 qualities you want your partner to have- and make sure you have them, first."



How interesting is it that we want so badly to have someone in our lives who will emanate certain things we hold high in value, however, we never take the time to be sure that we are living up to our own values, first?

We know that all comes back to us, that we put out.We also know that it doesn't necessarily come back to us in the same form as we put out.So how can we overlook the necessity of holding ourselves personally accountable to live and breathe all that we expect others to toward us?If we feel we are being treated with disrespect, or dealing with others who are not trustworthy;If we can look at our relationship to self and others, perhaps the energy being exuded is lack of self worth, or perhaps self reliance.

It can be anything, and not always the same thing, but it will always be "something".Let's look at our relationships we are building and maintaining.



If we feel as though there are certain things happening that we can surely do without, and qualities in our relationship that are not in alignment with what we wish to have; look at our relationship with self, and to others, and see if we are out of line, as well.Then maybe we can break down the confusion and finally see clearly what we want, by being what we want others to be.What a perfect vision!
LoVe,
LuCy sMiLeS

Like A Fish Out Of Water

"Go To Where the Butterflies Live in your Heart"
LoVe LuCy

Well into the New Year, many of us have already since decided to make some changes, in our lives, in hopes that we will improve what our lives look like, as a whole.

Some may have made choices to start a more active lifestyle, while others may have chosen to slow down, and start enjoying the silent moments.

However we have all made these decisions, it is a process, that can only be 'almost' perfected with time.Nothing happens over night, and things that do, may happen to go away, just as quickly.

Taking the time to see what it is our lives what look like, to us, to be fruitful and fulfilling is a great step to understanding more about who we are, and what we feel is most important. Many of us have obligations to our families, to our Financial Institutions and to maybe even to our friends, which cause us to continue on a professional road that is not necessarily helping us.Staying in a position, in life, that makes us not feel grounded, but rather stuck, can cause for stress that is above and beyond the stress of trying to get ahead, or even make due.

There is a position for everyone in life. What some may deem a daring or trying task, others may feel free to attempt, with no effort at all.Finding our flow, in our lives, and what allows us to feel that we moving forward, rather than treading water, without being able to catch our breath, is a great step to a life of continued happiness. Find Your Flow, by First Finding your Authentic Happiness!

LoVe,
LuCy sMiLeS

Meet Me Half Way

"The first part of change, is accepting it."
LoVe LuCy

Of all of the individual things we wish to achieve in our lifetime, one common goal we have is to create, maintain and embrace long lasting, and loving relationships.
It can be friends, intimate connections, or work related relations- all of which we wish for these relationships to be at their best.The issue with this, is to be open to allowing the dynamic of each connection to be as it is, in its most healthy form.
This is where it may be more difficult than not, but by staying true to ourselves, the truth of how to conserve our connections will follow.Yes, we will struggle, whether it is for power, understanding, or because others are seemingly more demanding.How do we get to a place where there is harmony in our connections that will allow us that feeling of joy, and moreover comfort with those around us?Relationships are not always going to be easy, and rightfully so.They are here in our lives, to teach as more about ourselves, than anything else.The importance of relationships is not only to hold others dear, and show honesty and loyalty, but to also have that start from within.By meeting each other half way and both equally communicating what is important, we can make for a better understanding.
The most integral part of meeting each other half way, is in the follow through that is carried out, after open communication occurs.And holding our ground, by staying grounded to our commitments to ourselves, no matter what others may convey, or fall back on.
Our needs are valuable, and therefore should be respected with high value, from those whom we share our hearts with. The key to a successful relationship, is having that respect of loyalty of our needs appreciated and abided by, because we are worthy of such.It is important to be in alignment with our core values and beliefs, and be strong enough to allow those in our lives, who can provide us with that same harmony, while we are connecting.
And to carry on with others, the best way for us.
Sometimes it is saying goodbye to what doesn't serve us; or making changes in the dynamic to directly improve how things are. We deserve happiness, and peace and to smile when we think of those we are bridging amazing ties with.
By taking responsibility for ourselves, and what we know will be what we need, going forward; we can successfully walk forward with those, who are then, in the same position as us to create this harmonic flow, together.
You will know when it is right,
because it feels right,
and you feel right.
LoVe, LuCy sMiLeS

Call The Dogs Off!

"All is well, when we make it so."
LoVe LuCy

Of all the situations and circumstances we have in our lives, we may, at times, feel a bit powerless.We may, in some moments, feel that no matter how much we know in our hearts, that we create our life, through our thoughts, it seems we are not even sure what we are thinking. Of this feeling of powerlessness, it is great to know that we carry the power, within us, of how to get it back! Not everything in life, for us, is going to be black and white.And just when we feel we get it, something may come into our view and changes our own view of life, seemingly out of nowhere.

We could be feeling confident that things are working out so well, and get a bit side tracked by stress, bringing down our moods.Or we could be feeling restless, and worried that things just won't look up; and then we look up and see a new and smiling face, who makes us change our way of thinking.

Our fears can be used for empowering our lives, by looking at them, taking them, and making a point to see what they are telling us, rather than allowing them to tell us how to live our lives.

It is always up to us, if we want to throw in the towel, or hit the ground running, to stand on our stage, in the spotlight, with grace, in this role we have been given. It is interesting, that once we see what our thoughts are, we can see that many of them, with a little tweaking to the positive shift our lives into a 180, allowing us to feel back on track.

Many of our thoughts, are not even our own, but are resonance of past emotions, or conversations with other.In life, to get a better view, we just have to call the dogs off, in our minds, and realize that they may just be barking up the wrong tree!



LoVe,

LuCy sMiLeS

Stop, Drop & Roll

"If you don't know, Dance!"LoVe LuCy

Do you ever wonder how one moment you can have such poise, and the next, you are pondering how you are going to make it through?

How in one breath you are on pinching yourself to be sure your blessings are real, and the next, you really cannot catch your breath?This is not a commercial for prescription anti-depressants.

This is real life. We carry so much emotion with us, from experiences, that when a new experience comes, we tend to react to it, based on the emotion we were dealing with previously.

This can definitely cause confusion in our lives, not to mention the lives of those around us. We are not all so fortunate to be open and able to healthily work on and work through every single emotion we have.It is hard enough focusing on what Is going on, let alone focusing on how we feel about it! While everyone has a different take on matters, this can make matters even that much more difficult to get through.

Although we can find this much too much to take in, if we can take each moment for what it is, and do our best to take any negative aspect of it and:

1)Stop to Assess what is taking place, exactly for what it is;

2)Drop what doesn't serve us, knowing we are worthy of surrendering to the Universe;

3) Roll with all we have left, which can mean rolling with the punches, here and there;

This can help us turn a bad experience into simply just another experience, to learn and grow. And best of all "Let things go..."

Love,

LuCy sMiLeS

Rhyme or Reason

"It's Not Always Easy, But It's Always Worth It!"LoVe LuCy

One of the greatest things about being in this World together, is that we have each other to support, assist and boost when we are in need.

We attract our great friends, because we deserve great friends, and have great things to give, in return.
While it helps to go to our friends for the support that we need, we can also take comfort in our own Intuition to guide us, when things may seem difficult, or uncertain.

Our body will send us messages, when things are just not right, and need to be looked at, with more attention.

If we are struggling with a specific situation, and unsure whether the situation itself is an unreasonable scenario to have to compromise our truth for, the truth will always lie within, and we have every capability to access this truth, simply by asking.

Our minds can get mangled and our days can get so distracted.
But our Hearts and our Souls are always clearly exuding what it needs, to teach us, help us and guide us through everything we need to see, to be in the best place we need to be.

LoVe,
LuCy sMiLeS

You Can Say That Again

"What you Do Unto Others, You Do Unto Yourself First!"

LoVe LuCy

There are so many components that come into play when it comes to our moods.

From the weather, the day of the week, and for some of us, hormones!

Our moods are very sensitive things, and can change at the drop of a dime, depending on what gets dropped on our laps, or on our plates.

Yes, exterior circumstance, whether we wish or not, have a direct link to our moods.
Of course, having said that, what we do to change our moods, or improve our moods, after the fact, is entirely up to us.

Just as we can have a high for life, when everything is in order, we can also maintain a natural high, when things seem to go downhill.

The power of the mind is so intense and allows us to flourish or to fade, depending on how much power we give it!
There are going to be days in life we feel we can climb the tallest mountain, and many we are unsure we have the strength to put our foot down.

How we speak to ourselves through the good times and the bad will enable us to carry ourselves, and allow us to stand tall, when we may otherwise fall.

LoVe,
LuCy sMiLeS

Throw Caution To The Wind

"The great thing about trying is that you can do it as many times as you need!"
LoVe LuCy

In our journey, and in our life as a whole, we definitely focus on getting things done, and getting things right. We pay attention to detail, where it matters to us, and we do our best to be our best, and to make the best of our time. With this, as individuals, we have our own set of individual deeds that we follow, based on our beliefs that we have carried with us along our way.

Some of us, depending on how we are accomplishing our goals, may be in a place of reevaluating what we do, how we do it, and whether or not we need to tweak our ways a little. Of this, it can come down to not so much changing who we are as it is about expanding ourselves, and our mindsets, to go above and beyond what we may feel comfortable doing. As creatures of habit, we also have a habit of fearing change.

We make decisions as safely as we can, to be sure that we don't put ourselves in a position that may be something we regret doing.

By doing so, and having a perception that taking an extra step is too extreme, we risk being in a place that is stagnant from growth. If we believe, in our minds, that we cannot take a chance to do something more than we are, then we will be right. Whatever our perception is; is our life.

If we can perceive our lives as being abundant, through being rightly deserving of such abundance, mixed with proactive determination to carry this out- perhaps we can throw any negative perceptions out, and bring in all that will serve us for Success!

Or so, I think so.

LoVe,
LuCy sMiLeS

This Little Light Of Mine

"A Little Smile Can Brighten the Darkest of Days."
LoVe LuCy




Remember that song we used to sing?
"This Little Light of Mine, I'm Gonna Let it Shine..."

There are so many songs, and even Fairy Tales, that when we look back and replay them in our minds, we realize how much significance they have on us owning our Power, and staying true to ourselves, even in the face of Darkness.

It is interesting how much more alert and aware we are, as children, when we actually know less about the World.

The truth is we have a profound innocence that we overlook once we get older, that allows us to use our intuition to guide us, rather than the outside influences, that many times is based on fear, and mistrust.

We just used our inner light as the main force for answers.
We knew when things didn't feel right.
We knew, as well, that once we changed our perception, that everyone around us, had a light of their own, that they just hoped to have shine bright, as well.

Life, itself has ups and downs, it has dramas, twists, and turns...
And sometimes those we think are here to hurt us the hardest, turn out to assist us the best.

And those we feel we understand the least, are those who help us understand ourselves the most.

Wherever you are in your life, and whomever you choose to share your path with;

Be sure to let your light shine when darkness seems to fall;
It allows others to grow too, seeing our strength to stand tall.

You owe it not only to yourself, afterall.
But at the end of the day, it is always your call.

LoVe,
LuCy sMiLeS

Fly By The Seat Of Your Pants!

"Jump a Little Higher!"
LoVe LuCy

Anything we have ever tried, for the first time, we had to learn how to do.

Every single thing.

From learning to ride our bike to learning how to calculate long division!Some of us reading this may have cringed at one or both thoughts of the above. We all have stories in our minds, remembering the fear of having to learn new things, as much as we still have the fear of knowing there are a few more things to learn. It seems we feel we must have all the necessary information from beginning to end, before we attempt to attack anything given to us.

In life, it is always smart to have a plan of action.

A goal.

A vision of what we are looking to achieve.

However, it is not necessary to have all the answers before we go at it. Many times, by intuitively working through the process, we not only have an opportunity to come out with much more than we set out for, we also learn more about ourselves, and our capabilities to work wonderfully, without having to carefully place all our ducks in a row.

Spontaneity is a gift that sometimes allows us to use Faith rather than Fact, as it gives us a balance of Magic with Logic.

I don't recommend flying by the seat of your pants, so much that you always end up in the hot seat- trying to wiggle your way out of regretful, and painstaking situations;
I do recommend, however, taking a chance on life, once in a while, and going above and beyond your usual set of ordinary guidelines, if you are looking for extraordinary results!

LoVe,

LuCy sMiLeS

AND SO IT GOES

"Love not only heals wounds, it saves lives."
LoVe LuCy

In matters of the heart, even when we know that our hearts don't lie, we can still sit in confusion, trying to understand what it is attempting to tell us.

It can seem like one minute, we have all the answers, and the next minute, we haven't a clue.

It can be a bit unnerving at times, when we are trying to decide what will make us happy, and how to continue on our path, to attract love in our lives, starting with love for ourselves.

When it all comes down to it, every last one of us makes decisions and choices based on how much love we are feeling at the time.

When we feel overjoyed with love, we make loving decisions. When we feel we lacking love in our lives, we can tend to make decisions lacking love.

Our hearts guide us through our lives, with the intention of us being true to ourselves, and true to those around us.

If we can be loving to others, even when we may fear we are going to get hurt, we are not only opening ourselves up for love, we are allowing others to do the same.

We have the blessing of living, and loving, as well as setting a tone for Compassion, Integrity, and Joy in our lives, starting with setting an example for others, through the love we give out to the World.

We all wish for Success, in our lives.
So when all else fails; Love!


LoVe,
LuCy sMiLeS

Keep Your Eyes Peeled

"Our visions and our daydreams come to life, by way of default."
LoVe LuCy

Do you ever catch yourself in a daze, only many moments after
you've been gazing into dreamland, while you should be paying attention to what is in front of you; or what responsibility you were in the middle of executing?

Do you ever notice visions of passionate living catch your mind's eye, afterward snapping out of it, not even remembering what you were doing, before you were enjoying this magical moment in your little head?

It is imperative that we pay attention to what we are taking care of, in our lives. Whether we are driving, prepping the children for school, or crunching numbers at work for a big deadline...

But what part of us is making sure that we pay attention to all those thoughts and all those messages that come to us, every single day, and every single waking hour, that pertain to our visions of following our dreams?

However we wish to believe we are watched over and protected; whether for some of us, from our Angels, and Guides, and for some others, God; we are very much being given messages and answers, through visions, people, and physical signs whether on the streets or in our heads.

If we can keep our eyes peeled, and take these things for above and beyond what they may look like to the naked eye, we may find ourselves living those dreams in our real lives!

We have a responsibility to take care of our lives, and be great examples to our children, and our family and friends, in this wonderful World.

We also have a responsibility to ourselves, to lead by example by first Leading our own lives, with passion, and with purpose.

The signs are there for us to discern what that means for us, and with whom we wish to share our lives and our dreams with.

When we wake up, and walk through our day, whether stressed or serene, the signs are always just as clear, and we will see them, if we just keep our eyes peeled!

LoVe,
LuCy sMiLeS

FREE REIN

"Whatever you are up to, it is Always up to you!"
LoVe LuCy


Wherever you are sitting, right now, has a purpose.

What you have been spending your time doing up to now, and with who, has just as much purpose as does tomorrow, and all the days to come. From the smallest things we do, and say... each walking step and each word has meaning and energy.

Our lives are made up of so many things, people and experiences, it is sometimes hard to believe that we are in complete control of all that is, and all those who come and go, and come and stay in our lives. We have freedom, and we have power to make things happen in our lives. We also have the same power to have things taken away.

Whether it is relationships, jobs, or other experiences and opportunities put before us... We are responsible and accountable for how our lives take place.

We can feel like we are on top of the world, or we can feel like we wish we could just duck our heads in the sand. Whichever way we feel, is up to us. Our World may seem unfair at times,
I know...

But what I also know is that with great disaster comes great triumph.A broken heart can lead to a world of Love.A lost job can lead to a new found Passion. Whatever the case may be, what we do with what we have, and whether we open our hands and our hearts, when offered a chance at life, is up to us. Be open to give and receive love.

Be open to acknowledge you feelings and your faith to overcome sadness.Be open to allowing light into your world, even when you feel it is filled with darkness.

Because when darkness falls, the best way to look is up.And the best way to live, is knowing that you have free rein to make life worth every waking breath, even when you can barely catch your own.

LoVe,
LuCy sMiLeS

Rest Assured

"To Dream Big is to Live Big!
LoVe LuCy


It really doesn't matter how cozy your duvet is, or how fluffy your pillow, when you rest your head with worry at the end of the day.

No magical mattress can take away all your anxiety, as you attempt to close your mind off to all that is concerning you. We can do our best to "sleep on it" trying to clear all that we have going on in our weary little heads, but if you are like most, most of the time, it takes more than just saying "Go to sleep!"

There are many ways we can tackle turmoil that festers in our minds, while we are trying to rest after a long day. Like anything else, the best way to eradicate negative, is to simply replace it with something positive. This works, just like it does with behaviours.

For instance, if you are trying to quit smoking, quit eating junk food, or even quit arguing with your spouse- the best bet for success is not to just say you are not going to smoke, eat unhealthy or stop arguing... It is important to compensate the behaviour with a better, more positive behaviour. By "reading inspiration" when you want to smoke, "walking outdoors in the sun" when you want to eat junk food, or "compliment your spouse for their goodness" when you want to lash out; you are switching your chemistry, which in return wipes out the memory of the past behaviour. You cannot have both.

This can be done, with resting your mind.

What habits do you have before bed?Worrying about tomorrow?Watching TV in your bed, before turning out the lights?Going to bed after a fight, and not reconciling?

By taking a step to serenity before or while closing your eyes, you may notice yourself finding it is morning, and you had a restful and full night of sleep! Some things to consider that can help you are; praying, writing your thankfuls for the day, and my favorite- calling on your Angels to chat about your visions, and specifically ask them for clarity in your dreams about what can aid you in finding your passion!

All these techniques bring your mind to a place of love, comfort, and joy, rather than worry, duress and stress! Try it for a night, and call me in the morning!

Love,
LuCy sMiLeS

Waiting In The Wings

"The Best Things To Come are Worth Waiting For!"
LoVe LuCy


I had a great conversation with one of my best girlfriends, today, and of course, she gave some of her best advice. We were discussing how we look at things and how it has a direct impact on what we attract.Of course it does.

If we focus on the things we do not have, we will notice we don't seem to get much more.The more we focus on all that we are blessed with having, the more blessings show up.She decided that she hasn't been focusing on her blessings and all that she has, right now.

She has been focusing on how she wanted more.

Once she stopped and looked at what she had, she really wasn't lacking at all! It is a blessing to be able to see the bigger picture, and to look at certain things in our life as lessons, to see what parts of ourselves needs tweaking.By being aware of our roles, and what we are here, to produce, and to give to those around us, our lives expand and our hearts expand as well.

When we believe that we have everything we need right now, and cherish it with everything we have, what we have will expand, even more. We all want what we want, now, much of the time, even though, we know in our hearts that everything takes time, and we are only given what we are able to handle.

Make sure you count your blessings, today for what is in your life; from people to things!And know that there is always more just waiting in the wings!

LoVe,
LuCy sMiLeS

"Proud Sponsor Of..."

"It is always easier with help from a friend."
LoVe LuCy

How many projects, tasks and chores have you done, where when having someone beside you to contribute their time, has been a great benefit?

Yes, there are instances where some of us work better, with some, and not so much with others.

I am sure your mind went to a place, that recollected times that it was a bit frustrating or stressful to amalgamate certain personalities, in one case or another. There is always going to be an exceptional case where we will want to state our case that we wish to work alone on getting certain things executed. The issue with this mindset, is that it leads us to believe we have only two options when it comes to doing things.

Alone, or with others. But what we fail to consider is that many things that we must take care of can be taken care of in many ways, when we take the opportunity to see just "how" we can work with others, to create the best outcome! In doing our best to live in conscious relationships with others, our fears and insecurities can get the best of us, resulting in us forgetting that we are in fact a collective energy.

When we work together, we, ourselves benefit. When we work against each other, we ourselves, are burdened. It is so important to do onto others as we would want to have done onto us, as what goes around, always comes around. What areas in your life, do you feel you are working against yourself?Be it gossiping about others? Speaking to others about a direct conflict you have with someone else, who should be then spoken to directly, to create peace? Not following through on commitments with those in your life?

Procrastinating time on the job? If we can remember that when we are in alignment, and also forming alliances with others, to allow for best growth of all involved; we can then begin to see change, even small change, which then creates a world of difference in the lives of all involved.

Just as we see companies sponsor and partner with other organizations they believe in, and know they will benefit from, we can do so with all relationships we have, as well. We owe it ourselves and to others to support each other on our paths, and do what we can to partner with others whenever we can and however we can.

So look at your life, and those in your life, and ask yourself how you can be the proud partner or proud sponsor and just do it!

LoVe,

LuCy sMiLeS

Alive & Kicking

"Seeing is believing, if only you believe."
LoVe LuCy

There really is a person for every job. I spent the first part of my Monday morning happily organizing my business notes, and goals for the new month, excited to get a fresh start to February, and to use whatever lessons I learned last month, to put to good use. As the rest of my morning proceeded, unfortunately not much of what I was executing had much to do with my passion or the goals I had set out for the month, just hours before. I didn't feel so alive in that moment, and felt I needed more, to kick things up a notch. As I started to get a bit down and drained, losing some of my motivation- I looked up, and it was already time for lunch.

Gladly I made my way home to yummy food, and just in time for a little taste of Oprah TV to boot.

It is so strange how things always come to you right when you need them most. Low and behold on Oprah today, featured a President of a Waste Management company, who went undercover to learn the various roles of just a select few of the thousands he had employed under him. Amidst the experience, the major lesson he learned was just how passionate those in the least desirable positions were about their job!

It didn't matter that one man spent all his working hours literally cleaning what many of us would only lose sleep over; he actually did his job with conviction to get it done, and done right.

Needless to say, coming back to my office after swallowing myself pity, with my salmon, I realized, yet again, that it really never is what we are doing, but always how we are and how we behave, in what we do. I am very blessed that the role I have made a decision to be in, right now, is one that is so flexible, casual and allows me a chance to learn many things about business, to take into my own business, for growth and Leadership.

And sometimes it takes watching others take lead in their own life, in situations that would otherwise lead you to believe they must be miserable!

"Happiness is an inside job" I remember reading on a shirt years ago...

...sometimes I need to be reminded, too.

LoVe,

LuCy sMiLeS