Deal or No Deal?

When we make decisions, we tend to base them on decisions, and results we have been exposed to in the past.
We think that all we know is from what others have shown us as real.
This goes for everything. What career is right, relationship dynamics that are appropriate, and personal spiritual beliefs that should be practiced.

We have choices, and we create our own destiny, but by looking back, and examining those choices that we have seen being made by others.
And we base our lives on this.

“Look! She did this, and look what she got, because of it!”

“He decided this was right for him, and so he changed this, and bought this, giving him all of this, but he lost this along the way, because of it…hmmmm, I won’t make that mistake!”

It reminds me of card playing.

Deal or no Deal?

We have hands being dealt day in and day out.
We examine our hand, and decide, if it is good enough; if we should fold; if it looks good, but there could be more; so we hit for another card, and see if there is something better to come.
All the while hoping that the “card” will be in our favour.
If it is? We jump for joy with pride( ~really, it is our arrogant ego~) for we have struck luck!

If it is NOT in our favour, we may wallow in the fact that we made the wrong choice, and we wish so dearly, that we could go back and choose to NOT be hit with one more card.

What if… and I am going out on a stretch here… What if we can create our own hand, with any card we like, and as many cards as we like. Creating a hand that is completely in our favour? Not right or wrong, as we have been taught by others with hands before us. But instead, right just for us, because we own the hand, we create it, with decisions based on our own experiences, and what is right for us.

How can we expect to enjoy a hand, that is someone else’s?
No one person is the same. No one person can be happy with exactly what another person has in their lives.

We need to take advantage of the fact that we own our card hand, and we can change it whenever, however we like.
Add a card; take away a card; switch a card for another, when we feel the time is right; or just not deal at all for a while, take a break.

Create a hand that is right for you.
Don’t’ worry about the cards your neighbor is holding.
You need not be influenced by what others are thinking and feeling, and creating.
Be influenced by your thoughts and feelings and creations coming from your heart.
That is the “Heart of Life.” Your life…

LuCy sMiLeS