20/20

"Clearing things up with ourselves first
clears up anything with anyone else."
LoVe LuCy

They never said life would be easy.

They never said the going wouldn't get tough, and we wouldn't want to throw in the towel, in our relationships with our spouses, friends, jobs, and even with ourselves.

Many of us can ponder and ponder why it is that we attract certain people in our lives, or why we keep putting ourselves in certain positions.

Many of us have no idea why we haven't attracted that right person, we are so hoping for.

We may have a list, of what we want this person to look like, including many characteristics and values that we want them to have, in order for us to hold true to ourselves just what we know we deserve.

Whether it is in our current relationships that don't look exactly like what we want, or in seeking a new and upcoming connection.Something today caught my ear, and touched my heart to the point of tears"For a quality relationship, write down 20 qualities you want your partner to have- and make sure you have them, first."



How interesting is it that we want so badly to have someone in our lives who will emanate certain things we hold high in value, however, we never take the time to be sure that we are living up to our own values, first?

We know that all comes back to us, that we put out.We also know that it doesn't necessarily come back to us in the same form as we put out.So how can we overlook the necessity of holding ourselves personally accountable to live and breathe all that we expect others to toward us?If we feel we are being treated with disrespect, or dealing with others who are not trustworthy;If we can look at our relationship to self and others, perhaps the energy being exuded is lack of self worth, or perhaps self reliance.

It can be anything, and not always the same thing, but it will always be "something".Let's look at our relationships we are building and maintaining.



If we feel as though there are certain things happening that we can surely do without, and qualities in our relationship that are not in alignment with what we wish to have; look at our relationship with self, and to others, and see if we are out of line, as well.Then maybe we can break down the confusion and finally see clearly what we want, by being what we want others to be.What a perfect vision!
LoVe,
LuCy sMiLeS

Like A Fish Out Of Water

"Go To Where the Butterflies Live in your Heart"
LoVe LuCy

Well into the New Year, many of us have already since decided to make some changes, in our lives, in hopes that we will improve what our lives look like, as a whole.

Some may have made choices to start a more active lifestyle, while others may have chosen to slow down, and start enjoying the silent moments.

However we have all made these decisions, it is a process, that can only be 'almost' perfected with time.Nothing happens over night, and things that do, may happen to go away, just as quickly.

Taking the time to see what it is our lives what look like, to us, to be fruitful and fulfilling is a great step to understanding more about who we are, and what we feel is most important. Many of us have obligations to our families, to our Financial Institutions and to maybe even to our friends, which cause us to continue on a professional road that is not necessarily helping us.Staying in a position, in life, that makes us not feel grounded, but rather stuck, can cause for stress that is above and beyond the stress of trying to get ahead, or even make due.

There is a position for everyone in life. What some may deem a daring or trying task, others may feel free to attempt, with no effort at all.Finding our flow, in our lives, and what allows us to feel that we moving forward, rather than treading water, without being able to catch our breath, is a great step to a life of continued happiness. Find Your Flow, by First Finding your Authentic Happiness!

LoVe,
LuCy sMiLeS

Meet Me Half Way

"The first part of change, is accepting it."
LoVe LuCy

Of all of the individual things we wish to achieve in our lifetime, one common goal we have is to create, maintain and embrace long lasting, and loving relationships.
It can be friends, intimate connections, or work related relations- all of which we wish for these relationships to be at their best.The issue with this, is to be open to allowing the dynamic of each connection to be as it is, in its most healthy form.
This is where it may be more difficult than not, but by staying true to ourselves, the truth of how to conserve our connections will follow.Yes, we will struggle, whether it is for power, understanding, or because others are seemingly more demanding.How do we get to a place where there is harmony in our connections that will allow us that feeling of joy, and moreover comfort with those around us?Relationships are not always going to be easy, and rightfully so.They are here in our lives, to teach as more about ourselves, than anything else.The importance of relationships is not only to hold others dear, and show honesty and loyalty, but to also have that start from within.By meeting each other half way and both equally communicating what is important, we can make for a better understanding.
The most integral part of meeting each other half way, is in the follow through that is carried out, after open communication occurs.And holding our ground, by staying grounded to our commitments to ourselves, no matter what others may convey, or fall back on.
Our needs are valuable, and therefore should be respected with high value, from those whom we share our hearts with. The key to a successful relationship, is having that respect of loyalty of our needs appreciated and abided by, because we are worthy of such.It is important to be in alignment with our core values and beliefs, and be strong enough to allow those in our lives, who can provide us with that same harmony, while we are connecting.
And to carry on with others, the best way for us.
Sometimes it is saying goodbye to what doesn't serve us; or making changes in the dynamic to directly improve how things are. We deserve happiness, and peace and to smile when we think of those we are bridging amazing ties with.
By taking responsibility for ourselves, and what we know will be what we need, going forward; we can successfully walk forward with those, who are then, in the same position as us to create this harmonic flow, together.
You will know when it is right,
because it feels right,
and you feel right.
LoVe, LuCy sMiLeS

Call The Dogs Off!

"All is well, when we make it so."
LoVe LuCy

Of all the situations and circumstances we have in our lives, we may, at times, feel a bit powerless.We may, in some moments, feel that no matter how much we know in our hearts, that we create our life, through our thoughts, it seems we are not even sure what we are thinking. Of this feeling of powerlessness, it is great to know that we carry the power, within us, of how to get it back! Not everything in life, for us, is going to be black and white.And just when we feel we get it, something may come into our view and changes our own view of life, seemingly out of nowhere.

We could be feeling confident that things are working out so well, and get a bit side tracked by stress, bringing down our moods.Or we could be feeling restless, and worried that things just won't look up; and then we look up and see a new and smiling face, who makes us change our way of thinking.

Our fears can be used for empowering our lives, by looking at them, taking them, and making a point to see what they are telling us, rather than allowing them to tell us how to live our lives.

It is always up to us, if we want to throw in the towel, or hit the ground running, to stand on our stage, in the spotlight, with grace, in this role we have been given. It is interesting, that once we see what our thoughts are, we can see that many of them, with a little tweaking to the positive shift our lives into a 180, allowing us to feel back on track.

Many of our thoughts, are not even our own, but are resonance of past emotions, or conversations with other.In life, to get a better view, we just have to call the dogs off, in our minds, and realize that they may just be barking up the wrong tree!



LoVe,

LuCy sMiLeS

Stop, Drop & Roll

"If you don't know, Dance!"LoVe LuCy

Do you ever wonder how one moment you can have such poise, and the next, you are pondering how you are going to make it through?

How in one breath you are on pinching yourself to be sure your blessings are real, and the next, you really cannot catch your breath?This is not a commercial for prescription anti-depressants.

This is real life. We carry so much emotion with us, from experiences, that when a new experience comes, we tend to react to it, based on the emotion we were dealing with previously.

This can definitely cause confusion in our lives, not to mention the lives of those around us. We are not all so fortunate to be open and able to healthily work on and work through every single emotion we have.It is hard enough focusing on what Is going on, let alone focusing on how we feel about it! While everyone has a different take on matters, this can make matters even that much more difficult to get through.

Although we can find this much too much to take in, if we can take each moment for what it is, and do our best to take any negative aspect of it and:

1)Stop to Assess what is taking place, exactly for what it is;

2)Drop what doesn't serve us, knowing we are worthy of surrendering to the Universe;

3) Roll with all we have left, which can mean rolling with the punches, here and there;

This can help us turn a bad experience into simply just another experience, to learn and grow. And best of all "Let things go..."

Love,

LuCy sMiLeS

Rhyme or Reason

"It's Not Always Easy, But It's Always Worth It!"LoVe LuCy

One of the greatest things about being in this World together, is that we have each other to support, assist and boost when we are in need.

We attract our great friends, because we deserve great friends, and have great things to give, in return.
While it helps to go to our friends for the support that we need, we can also take comfort in our own Intuition to guide us, when things may seem difficult, or uncertain.

Our body will send us messages, when things are just not right, and need to be looked at, with more attention.

If we are struggling with a specific situation, and unsure whether the situation itself is an unreasonable scenario to have to compromise our truth for, the truth will always lie within, and we have every capability to access this truth, simply by asking.

Our minds can get mangled and our days can get so distracted.
But our Hearts and our Souls are always clearly exuding what it needs, to teach us, help us and guide us through everything we need to see, to be in the best place we need to be.

LoVe,
LuCy sMiLeS

You Can Say That Again

"What you Do Unto Others, You Do Unto Yourself First!"

LoVe LuCy

There are so many components that come into play when it comes to our moods.

From the weather, the day of the week, and for some of us, hormones!

Our moods are very sensitive things, and can change at the drop of a dime, depending on what gets dropped on our laps, or on our plates.

Yes, exterior circumstance, whether we wish or not, have a direct link to our moods.
Of course, having said that, what we do to change our moods, or improve our moods, after the fact, is entirely up to us.

Just as we can have a high for life, when everything is in order, we can also maintain a natural high, when things seem to go downhill.

The power of the mind is so intense and allows us to flourish or to fade, depending on how much power we give it!
There are going to be days in life we feel we can climb the tallest mountain, and many we are unsure we have the strength to put our foot down.

How we speak to ourselves through the good times and the bad will enable us to carry ourselves, and allow us to stand tall, when we may otherwise fall.

LoVe,
LuCy sMiLeS