Attention Please!

When I was in school, as many of you, there were some subjects that I was either just not interested in, and some I would have been more interested in, had I any clue what the lesson was all about.

As with life, we get stumped once in a while. Like a formula that we try to calculate over and over again, getting the same wrong answer!

Sometimes all we need to do is look at the formula differently. Try new ways to find a solution.
Once we do this, many times we can be successful.
And isn’t it funny, once you have the solution, and really understand how it all worked out, you look back on your “stumped” episode in time, and have to laugh.
“How didn’t I get it?”… “What was I thinking?”… “How could I have looked at it that way?”

Not everything in life, will we “get” right away… Sometimes it takes doing the same things over and over again, and realizing the solution is only found, once we change our ways of thinking, and take a chance on trying things out, differently.

And sometimes, it is scary when we see things for what they actually are,
and even people for who they actually are, when we get the lesson was being taught,
and realize our thoughts and our assumptions in the past,
were based on not understanding the lesson, and also not understanding
the person.

Lessons in school, or lessons in life. We will get it when we get it.
Not before, and not after the fact. But exactly when we are to get it.

Many say we already chose to learn before we were born,
and others say our choices are mapped out for us.
Either way, they are ours, however they are learned.
Paying attention will allow us to have a head start at the work in front of us,
and what tools will help us find the solutions to life’s lessons…

LuCy sMiLeS

Three Days “Grace”

Life, as we know it is a series of choices. As we get older, and look back on some of the choices we have made and the results of them, we certainly have a more dignified way of continuing to chose, (most of time), that would more often that not result in better outcomes.

We make choices based on experience, knowledge, and sometimes based on chance and the hope that all will be well.

Even if we have the decision set in stone for something… be it to change jobs, change homes, change relationship dynamics, or change our way of thinking altogether, through involving ourselves in study for personal growth; we all need to also decide, when we can, to have three days grace period to allow ourselves the transition of these, sometimes life altering decisions. We can be confident in our choices, and confident that what our decisions are, are in our best interest, and taking us on our authentic path.

But, without giving ourselves time to breathe in, and take hold of our emotions, understand them, and embrace them, we may be preventing ourselves from really tuning into what is best for us. The slower you can go, and the more calm you are, the more aware you will be about what is right for you.

So even if you are certain of what is right, allow yourself time to look at this decision, explore it for all it is, and own it, confidently. Be with yourself, and feel grateful for your choice and what it means to you, and certainly allow three days grace before you jump back into life and the continuous everyday decisions that come with it!

LuCy sMiLeS

Forget Me Not

For many of us; we may be pulled in many directions,
when it comes to taking care of and giving our attention to all
those around us, that we love and care for.

It is not the easiest thing in the world to keep in touch,
with all our friends, around the world that we have connected
with in all our years of living, let alone trying to maintain and
continuously build those strong and extremely close relationships
with those we physically surround ourselves with everyday.

To add to that, one relationship that one many a times neglect most, in this chaos of keeping in touch with others, is remembering to keep in touch with ourselves.

We want to be there for our friends, and for those that we love, as much as we can, but in the battle with time, and work and responsibilities that fill our days, and our minds, we more often than not, forget our relationship with ourselves.

If we are not good to ourselves, we are not good to anybody, as our foundation in relationships in this world, is only as good as our relationship with self.

So don’t feel selfish if you need to take time to look at and nurture what is best for you, as it only then will help in your care for what is best for others, after all. And only you know what you have to do and where you have to go, to be at peace and in love.

The pressures of everyday are inevitable, so don’t pressure yourself to show up in every relationship, if you have not shown up in yours with you.
And if you are not sure what you need to do to be the best version of you, just follow your heart for guidance, it doesn’t know any better than what is truly right.
And that is good enough for me!

LuCy sMiLeS

Sunshine When it Rains…

There are a few things we cannot control in life; as much as we wish we could.
We also have to realize that we will always get by; we will always pull ourselves together, no matter what the situation.
Are we not here, after everything we have been through, to date?
There must be something to be said about that!

Life is filled with such beauty, and most of all it is filled with such beautiful people to come into our lives when we
may need little sunshine when it rains.

One thing we have to understand is that for everyone who enters our lives to aid us in times that may be trying,
we are just as much there to help them.

Embrace those who are around you, receive what they have to offer, and know that you have just as much to offer back.

We never have any guarantees in life, but all I know is that I am here, and maybe there for you. And you are just as much here, for me, too.

I am not going to wonder too much about what I have to do, as much as what I have to offer all those around me.

If we can just live our lives knowing that no matter what we chose- it is always the right choice;no matter what we think- it will be ok to believe, and no matter what we decide to say, it needs to be said~ then maybe we can live without worry, love without fear and care without apprehension…

Imagine just living?
It is like a ray of sunshine when it rains…

LuCy sMiLeS

Chill Out!

No matter how you feel; what you are thinking, or where you are going; there is one thing that can take all the stress of yesterday’s happenings, today’s worries, and tomorrow’s wonders, away…

Chilling out!

There is only so much time in the day, and there are only so many things we can take care of in this little amount of time we have been given from waking up, to resting our heads after it is all said and done.

Behind every problem there is a solution, and for every hard hit there is a powerful lesson.

But if we don’t give ourselves the time to stop, smell the roses, and enjoy the world for all the breathtaking beauty it has to offer,
we are not giving ourselves the opportunity to get clear on our purpose.

I took time today to walk on the ocean, for the first time in months, and after having thought of the story of the Starfish, for over a week, I, without coincidence, having given myself an hour to chill out, walked right up to just that…
A beautiful starfish, right at my feet.

Our thoughts manifest into reality, as we are aware.

But if we let the noise of fear, of skepticism contain our minds, we will not be able to see the magic and the beauty that sweeps the earth. Or the starfish that are swept up on shore, right to our feet, to remind
us that we are worth all that we want, and though we may be
only one in a billion people, we are the world to many of those people.

I would not have reminded myself to keep my head above water,
had I not taken the time to walk beside it.

Taking care of business is always important to maintaining a
happy and comfortable life.

But just as important is choosing “you”, and sometimes even
more so important is to “chill out!”

LuCy sMiLeS

Questa Vita Bella!

Maybe you woke up this morning, realizing you have so much on your plate that you would rather just hide back under the covers.

Maybe you woke this morning, and realized you had a sleepless night, from stress of how you are going to pay your pending bills.

Maybe you woke up this morning, and starting thinking of all that was in your mind before you fell asleep from the exhaustion of thinking so much about all the stresses and hardships you have been dealing with in your life.

We all have stress, some of us, this morning, more than others could possibly imagine dealing with.

Inevitably, however, all of us reading this, woke up this morning.

If we were to take even minutes to take inventory of all that we love, all that we have and all the beauty that surrounds us everyday, before we had to start the lists of responsibilities, maybe we would see things for what they are.

I want to share with you something I have procrastinated doing for too long a while. For every three things you have to get done, write five thankfuls for all that you have… And watch how beautiful your life will be.

This beautiful life…It only gets better!
LuCy sMiLeS

Wishful Thinking

Things may seem to hit us from behind, when we are not looking,
sideswipe us when our heads are in the clouds,
or give us whip lash when we think we are focused and prepared for anything!

There is no right or wrong way to make adjustments, if you are less than
well adjusted, in any area of your life… It is up to you what you need to do,
and up to you what is best for you.…
But there is a great and exciting secret I can share with you that can allow for
preventive measures in regards to preparing for unforeseen
hits that may cause you to be a bit startled..

Wishful Thinking!

Life is going to come at you from all sides- be it the front, side, and many a time,
hit you from behind. It is what it is.

But, I can speak from experience when I say, if you look at things with a
positive mind, more often than not, you will get positive back.

Ever notice how your day just seems to follow suit, when you stub your foot, sometimes, positively and happily jumping out of bed ready to conquer the world? Your whole mood shifts, your views on the day change, and you quickly change your mindset, causing your day to sometimes “seemingly” be downhill from there.

If you can allow for each circumstance to not interfere with the next, and take things in stride, without breaking your positive stride, certainly your day will only get better!

It is not childish to think everything is going to be just fine, as the secret to happiness is paying attention to the wonders of the world, not wondering why things less than satisfying are happening.

So, walk with your head held high, and if you miss the coffee table, and stub your toe?
Bite your lip, wipe the tear, scream if you must! But walk it off, and allow for the next moment to pass without passing up every opportunity to be thankful for all that is around you!

And if you wish for things in your life to get better, believe them to be so.

Don’t spend your time thinking you can’t have it all, and spend your time knowing you can!

LuCy sMiLeS